So it’s happened. My big girl has gone and gotten all big girl on me. I mean she’s a preschooler and she has *gasp* friends.
No, I’m not talking about her cousin friends. I mean friends that have no relational ties to me or T-Daddy. Friends with parents that I do not previously know. Friends who I don’t even know what they look like because they are her classmates. And, by the time we pick her up, some of them have already been picked up themselves.
One of these said friends have invited her to a birthday party. And, she’s super excited to go. In fact, she makes me read the invitation daily, and, at one point, insisted on holding it for every car ride.
- Two problems:
- I don’t know all the kids in her class yet, so I’m not sure which girl sent the invite.
- This is the first party that TD1 has been invited to as TD1 and not 1/4 of T4.
So my question is:
What’s the PPE, or proper party etiquette, in this situation??
Is there a wrong or right way to find out which child sent the invite? Are there certain things I should not do to avoid looking like a creepy stalker parent?
I’m actually okay with TD1 having a solo invite and doing things without TD2. What I struggle with is the logistics of said things. The day of the party (like everyday in our life) is a pretty busy one for T4:
- We are triple-booked for events (including this party).
- I also have some personal business that I need to tend to that morning, and T4 may or may not already be with me.
- We have something to do immediately following the party, which may require us dropping the kids to a babysitter.
- The time that will be spent traveling to the party, back home to pick up TD2 and whoever stays with her, possibly to the babysitter, and then to the function, just isn’t time-efficient.
- We only have one car.
- TD1 is dead set on going to this party.
So how do I handle that? Do I say no to one of the things that we’re booked for? And, how do I decide what gets declined? The party is at a children’s playhouse type of place, so is it rude – in the interest of convenience and time – to show up with all of T4? Even if only TD1 partakes in the party festivities and TD2 is off somewhere else?
Surely, this won’t be the last PPE crisis I deal with.